Angel joined the Pathway of Hope to get to the root cause of her chronic homelessness. After years of running away from settling down, she decided she wanted a more stable life for herself and her two daughters. They’d moved around a lot, and eventually, Angel and her daughters had become homeless and were living in her car.
Angel established life outside of her home state and was financially stable but returned to Mississippi out of fear of failure. She did not have a support system, so she lived off of her savings in a hotel room. When funds were exhausted, Angel and her daughters turned to live in her car, having to rely on hospital bathrooms for personal hygiene upkeep. Angel kept her daughters preoccupied by spending their free time at the public library.
“I fell asleep at police departments sometimes just so that I could know that they were safe. There were many mornings that I woke up to a police officer knocking on my window, asking, ‘Are you okay?’ I never want to go back to that place. I never want to take my daughters back to that place. I’d watch over them. I didn’t get much sleep during that time. At night, that’s when it hits you. When it gets dark, and you lock your doors, and the kids are asleep, ” Angel shared.
“I’d stay up as long as I could — sometimes until the sun came up. My health was failing. I don’t know how I was functioning, but when I look back on that time, I’d gotten a lot closer to God. Sometimes I’d wake up with money in my car. If it weren’t for the help of those strangers, I don’t know where I would have been,” Angel added.
“The main plan was to stop running.”
The physical, mental, and emotional discomfort of living out of a car forced Angel to make a change for herself and her daughters. In her car, she realized she needed to develop a plan to escape the vicious cycle of homelessness. She would take out a writing pad and go through her goals while her daughters slept. Angel made goals for financial constraints to set, how to begin therapy to heal old wounds for herself and her daughters, and she also practiced affirmations. Angel also took financial classes and childcare classes to aid her in getting on the path to recovery.
“These are things I hadn’t done in the past, and I was ready to change the trajectory of where I was going. I would discuss with myself how I will never do this to my daughters again. If you hear something long enough, you’ll believe it, whether it’s good or bad. If I can become a better me, everything else will flow. Yes, some things are out of my control, but if my life is in order, the results will be there. It starts with your mental, then your physical, then your emotional, and on from there. The main plan was to stop running,” Angel stated.
“I didn’t want to see myself as the victim anymore. I wanted to see myself as the victor.”
After reviewing all of her resources, Angel was able to use money from her restaurant job and support from church members and strangers to get her back into a hotel. There were days when she didn’t know where she’d get money to pay for the next night, but she made sure her children were never hungry.
“The movie The Pursuit of Happyness is real. A man and his son struggling with homelessness is real. If you’re not strong-minded, you’ll crash. If you’re not strong-minded, you’ll repeat yourself. But if you have one person that believes in you, even if that person is you, you’ll make it. I had to learn to keep moving forward, even when I was scared. I didn’t want to see myself as a victim anymore. I wanted to see myself as a victor. I realized how strong I was during this journey. Growing up in Jackson, Mississippi, you see poverty every day, and there’s not a lot of help available. I’m glad I’ve experienced this so that I can tell the next single mother who is suffering in silence that she does not have to go through this alone,” Angel shared.
Angel was soon referred to The Salvation Army’s Pathway of Hope Program, where she was provided a caseworker who would assist her in breaking the cycle of homelessness.
“It was a genuine support system. They truly care and get down on the level that you are on and feel what you are going through. My caseworker didn’t judge. It was truly a human to human connection. It was like, ‘I see you’re having a rough time, but I believe in you.’ He saw me at my lowest. He saw me get knocked down and I climbed back up,” Angel shared.
“For my kids to come home, turn the doorknob, and go to their own room is amazing.”
The Salvation Army was there to help Angel and her daughters emotionally and financially by covering hotel fees, car fuel, and food. The Army was also there to provide a Merry Christmas for them.
“My girls had a beautiful Christmas. My caseworker would always let me know about events happening in our community. He cared. If I couldn’t provide for my girls, he was sure to find a way to help us. I am grateful to The Salvation Army and my caseworker for allowing me to be human and letting me know that I wasn’t alone. There was constant communication to see how they could serve us. They’re here to help me ensure that homelessness doesn’t happen to my family again,” Angel shared.
After a year of counseling and help through the Pathway of Hope, Angel and her girls are now living in the comfort and security of their own apartment. All three are thriving in their new lives. Angel is working hard with the help of The Salvation Army to ensure that it stays this way.
“My girls have always been protective of me and encouraging, but it has increased since we’ve found a permanent home. What I love about my kids is that they were unfazed by what we were going through. They were always happy and bubbly. They didn’t reflect our circumstances. We still laughed and prayed in our vehicle. Our dynamic didn’t change. We were just a little boxed in,” Angel shared.
For my kids to come home, turn the doorknob, and go to their own room is amazing. When I walk out the door now, I’m excited to see what’s next because if I can overcome chronic homelessness, bring on the next challenge,” Angel added.
Through involvement with Pathway of Hope, families will be introduced to both The Salvation Army and other services within their community that offer a network of support, a sense of community, holistic programs, and spiritual guidance. Pathway of Hope is also a service connector to job training, health services, childcare and education, housing options, legal services, and much more